Feminine Feelings

Stress is defined as “a state of affair involving demand on physical or mental energy” by the Oxford Dictionary.

Stress is a word understood practically by everyone today.

However, there is a general belief or concensus that stress is bad for your health, but some experts say that there is “good” and “bad” stress. While others say there is neither good nor bad stress, arguing that we need an amount of stress to remain healthy and alive.

According to Canadian physician, Dr. Hans Selye, MD,  author of Stress Without Distress we need a certain amount of stress, or our bones will demineralize and our muscles will atrophy, more important, life is not worth living.

Research suggests that stress can actually increase our performance.  Stress stimulates the brain emotionally and biochemically to sharpen its performance. In moderate doses, positive stress is necessary in our life.  Stress responses are said to be one of our body’s best defense mechanisms against outer and inner threats.

It has been shown that in certain situations such as emergencies, accidents or threat to life, our body releases stress hormones that instantly make us more alert, sharpens our senses and makes us focused as well as prepare the whole body for action.

Experts say that negative stress causes such symptoms as tense muscles, unfocused anxiety, dizziness, rapid heartbeats, chronic psychosomatic illnesses, headaches,cancer, irritable bowel syndrome, eating disorder, allergies, insomnia, backaches, frequent cold, fatigue, hypertension, asthma, diabetes, heart ailments and even weakened immune systems.

Factors that trigger stress are varied. Relationship matters, workplace bickering and pressures, financial problems, unfriendly neighbors, children, parental control, traffic snarls, unpaid bills, illness, sick pets, lack of education, societal pressures, balancing work and home, menopause, uncertainty etc.

There are some evidence suggesting that stress during pregnancy can cause lower birth-weight babies and children developing behavioral problems later in life.

It is known that Stress lowers the libido in both sexes and may be a cause of infertility in some couples.

Stress causes a woman to ovulate irregularly especially if the stress level is high. Sperm production declines in men under stress.

Not conceiving when necessary due to stress in a couple can put them under more stress as they worry more about baby making, thereby putting them into a vicious cycle.  Stress and female libido can have adverse effects on mental as well as physical health.

Stress causes actual chemical changes in the human brain, which in turn affects the physical health of a person.

Women are more prone to stress due to rapid hormonal changes at the time of puberty and pregnancy which results in stress and female libido problem.


Doing drugs and alcohol does not lower stress.

  • Exercise is a great way to lower your stress. Vigorous exercise triggers the release of chemicals in the body called endorphins (the feel-good-hormone). Endorphins makes you feel happy and relaxed. Exercise includes walking, dancing, volleyball, or swimming, football.
  • Take a Break. Occasionally stop what you’re doing, and find a quiet spot where you can put your feet up. Read a good book, magazine or watch TV, drink some tea or take a leisurely and relaxing bath. Spend time away from pressure and activity without feeling guilty. Think about something pleasant with your eyes shut.
  • Get a Massage.
    Massage can work wonders on a stressed-out body. A gentle massage loosens knotted muscles, and relaxes you.
  • Sleep. You should put sleep at the top of your priority list. A good sleep and eating healthy foods can work wonders for the female body. Try to go to bed early and sleep as much as you can. If you can squeeze in an additional hour or two of sleep per night, you’ll feel a lot better, and your overall stress level will drop. Never carry your work or problems to bed as this can affect your subconscious brain.
  • Meditation and Prayer helps to calm, focus your thoughts, and makes you feel more positive.
  • Delegate. Grab offers from friends, family and colleagues and lessen your work load whether at home or at work. Delegate or eliminate some of your work responsibilities.
  • Eat a healthy diet. Don’t ignore your diet. Eating healthy affects your overall feeling of well being. Eat fresh fruits and vegetables.
    Avoid high energy foods such as biscuits and sweets. These are quick energy fixers, peaking your sugar levels moments after taking them, but leaving you depleted and lethargic once they wear off. Take several small healthy meals to maintain your blood-sugar at steady levels.
    Eating smaller meals instead of three larger ones will also help control pregnancy sickness.
  • Get Counseling and medication.
    Counseling from family members, a professionally-trained person, a therapist, doctor, nurse, or religious leader can go a long way to relieve stress. A counsellor can help you figure out the cause of your stress, how to minimize it, and how to learn techniques for handling stress in the future. In extreme cases medication may help you manage the symptoms of your stress. Discuss this with your medical practitioner.

Women are created by God to be beautiful and desirable. The management and positive application of positive stress can motivate the woman to great heights and bring to the surface her latent, dormant or innate abilities as well as increase her sense of well being, confidence, self assurance, productivity, sex life, libido and family stability. Her beauty radiates from a sense of accomplishment, self satisfaction and inner peace.

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